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Personal Effects
By Stacy Bush
APRIL 19, 1999:
Grab a New York Times Book Review and you may notice it regularly features
at least three or four reviews of personal memoirs. Talk to your favorite aspiring
writer and, instead of a screenplay, she'll probably tell you she's working on a
memoir. Within the last 10 years, personal memoirs have evolved into a dominant literary
genre distinct from autobiography and traditional memoirs, which tend to be less
self-analytical than books like Prozac Nation and The Kiss and more
invested in the literary resurrection of a time and place. Instead of relating a
variety of experiences that have shaped a long and influential life, personal memoirs
focus almost exclusively on the transition from subservient childhood to autonomous
adult life. The writers of these memoirs document a catalog of malevolent forces
that have thwarted their earnest quest for an identity of their own: poverty, alcohol,
eating disorders, incest, and abuse. Lovers, mentors, and parents serve only to impede
personal development, not foster it.
Susan Cheever's third memoir, Note Found in a Bottle: My Life as a Drinker,is
typical of the personal memoir genre. Cheever writes about a life which she largely
believes was determined by a heritage of alcohol. Cocktail hour was magical in the
Fifties suburbs where Cheever grew up; for many years, Cheever was convinced that
drinking was the path to maturity and sophistication, despite her father's notorious
alcoholism. Presumably, it's also what fueled her marriages and affairs as well as
alternately firing and short-circuiting her ambitions. It's inarguable that Cheever's
alcoholism warped her judgment but, as she herself admits, all her transgressions,
romantic, egocentric, and otherwise, can't be attributed to liquor. An alcohol haze
can't account for Cheever's extreme lack of self-awareness.

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As the context of Note Found in a Bottle narrows to a recitation of Cheever's
emotional reactions to her domestic dramas, the writing slackens: "A lot of
my old feelings started bumping around in the attic where I had put them. There were
crashing sounds as if someone was going wild up there, and rattling sounds as if
someone was trying to escape into my conscious mind." Prose "seemed to
burn right on the page," and life has "a great tapestry." Cheever
displays candor and only occasionally does she try to equivocate some of her less
admirable choices. Recounting her lunches with her father, by now a recovering alcoholic,
she notices that he's anticipated her request for a glass of white wine: "He
knew how important it was for someone like me to have a drink waiting for them. That's
the kind of thing alcoholics understand about other alcoholics, but my father never
talked to me about my drinking; not then, not ever." However, Cheever seems
either unwilling or unable to decipher the meanings of her father's actions. Does
she really still think he asked that she accompany him to his AA meetings just for
the pleasure of her company? Cheever also has the bad habit of undercutting the earnest
intent of her statements with her examples. Consider her account of an affair she
had with author Robert K. Massie during her second marriage to Calvin Tomkins, the
author of Duchamp: A Biography: "Bob Massie treated me with a seriousness
that I craved. Reflected in his eyes, I saw myself as an important writer. 'Does
Calvin always marry beautiful women?' he asked me." There's more than a bit
of unintentional irony here.
The limited context of the personal memoir is considered a major weakness of the
genre. Elisabeth Dyssegaard, an editor at Farrar, Straus & Giroux, strives to
find memoirs that transcend this problem. "I am interested in memoirs that reflect
on issues larger than one person's life," she says. Dyssegaard has edited two
memoirs recently: Walking Out on the Boys, Dr. Frances Conley's account of
sexism and harassment at Stanford University Medical School, and Tara Bahrampour's
To See and See Again: A Life in Iran and America, a young Iranian-American
woman's history of growing up in two vastly different cultures. "I was attracted
to both of these stories because these dealt with themes beyond the merely personal,"
Dyssegaard says. "For example, the world of medicine is very hermetic and the
point of view that an insider like Frances Connolly can offer is particularly valuable.
It's most important to see that many of those in power at a place like Stanford Medical
School can't even treat their own colleagues well. ... Tara Bahrampour's deals with
the complex nature of cultural identity. What defines a person as being from one
place or another."
But grappling with complex themes doesn't guarantee a successful memoir. Janet
McDonald's passionate and emotional memoir Project Girl describes her struggle
to reconcile her impressive intellectual gifts with her life in a Brooklyn Housing
project. McDonald earned degrees from Vassar, Columbia Graduate School of Journalism,
and the New York University School of Law: Her achievements would have been remarkable
under any circumstances, but McDonald had to contend not only with the pressures
brought on by navigating the boundaries of class and race but a devastating personal
trauma as well. Raped on campus her first year at Cornell Law School, she transferred
to New York University but her latent rage soon took a uniquely destructive course.
She was expelled from the university for setting a series of small fires. With intensive
therapy, McDonald ultimately prevailed, enrolling in journalism school at Columbia,
working at Newsweek, and interning at the Agence France-Presse in Paris.
But rarely has such a compelling story been told in such clunky language: "My
school chums didn't believe me, I had no close friends, and the only intimate relationship
I was emotionally capable of was with myself, and that, only barely," McDonald
writes in her typically convoluted fashion. In short, the strength of her emotions
and the veracity of her responses are undercut by clichéd rhetoric. Describing
a summer internship, she claims she is "an overeducated slave on the bottom
of the white patriarch's totem pole." The reader may find McDonald credible,
but that is in no way due to her lackluster writing. Including a significant portion
of a journal written while she was severely depressed doesn't help either; it's impossible
to see the process that transformed McDonald from a suicidal/homicidal victim to
a triumphant survivor since McDonald fails to make the narrative importance of her
journal manifest. The problem is that McDonald keeps telling us what we should see
rather than letting us see it for ourselves.
Many memoir writers are beginning or nonprofessional writers; consequently, passages
of wooden, contrived prose appear fairly regularly in these narratives. Margaret
Bullitt-Jonas' book Holy Hunger: A Memoir of Desire documents her battle with
an addiction to overeating. Fortunately, she finds solace beyond merely dissecting
the source and the manifestations of her addiction. Bullitt-Jonas is careful to emphasize
her part in perpetuating her disease and it is obvious that this gives her a tremendous
sense of power. But her display of soggy emotion and her use of heavy-handed, excruciatingly
bad similes ruin any impact she might wield: "To resist the internal pressure
of anxiety, you must be fierce. Like a warrior on the battlefield, you must stand
fast." However, it's worth considering that the artlessness of many memoirs
like Bullitt-Jonas' may make them more appealing to a broad section of their audience.
Many readers consider this verbal awkwardness a sign of the writer's integrity. Like
children with a bedtime story, they find comfort and control in language that does
not surprise or challenge them.
It's refreshing to see what an accomplished writer can do with a personal memoir.
University of Texas English professor Laura Furman's Ordinary Paradise is
an account of her mother's early death from ovarian cancer and its emotional aftermath.
Not only did Furman have to confront this loss but had to grapple with one of her
mother's legacies as well -- the very same, potentially lethal disease. Ordinary
Paradise was a very private project for Furman. "I had been working on it
for about 10 years and I never showed it to anyone," she said in a recent interview.
Furman's memoir has more in common with the essays in Natalia Ginzburg's Little
Virtues.
Furman says that Ordinary Paradise is different from other memoirs because
"it is not a 'scandal'-driven story. I wanted to show how even though experiences
may be repressed, they will show through into a life." Though she wanted to
protect the privacy of her stepmother and sisters, who make appearances in Ordinary
Paradise, Furman deliberately avoided including too many biographical details
for another, perhaps more compelling reason: "Everybody grows up in a different
family. My experience was unique and not necessarily what my sisters experienced.
They have their own versions of what happened in my family."
Furman has used her memoir's central material once before in her fiction. Her
novel The Glass House concerns a woman mourning the loss of her mother. Did
Ordinary Paradise offer Furman an opportunity to explore the very same emotional
issues in quite a different format? "Upon the publication of the memoir, I felt
it was one of the strongest pieces of writing I had done. I think everyone tells
the same story in their writing over and over again and this has freed me,"
she says. But writing a memoir also provides unexpected challenges. "Memoirs
look like such an honest, barefaced form but you know pretty quickly when you've
become boring. I was surprised at how some experiences that seemed so vivid and vital
to me became dull within the context of the memoir. I had to respect this problem."
Furman also took a different approach to much of the highly emotional material in
her book than either Cheever or McDonald. "I wrote different versions of this
story with more details. This is a very stripped-down version compared to what I
had." It's this restraint that makes her memoir poignant and powerful. Furman
achieves more through suggestion than through explication of her every emotion and
reaction. Paradoxically, it's her restraint -- not careless candor -- that reveals
just how intimate and moving her material is. The strongest emotions often reveal
themselves most forcefully through restraint.
However, the more you confess, the more attention you receive. In recent months,
Joyce Maynard's memoir At Home in the World has enjoyed long reviews in major
publications such as The New Yorker and The New York Times Book Review;
a sizable excerpt was featured in Vanity Fair. The intriguing element of Maynard's
memoir is her commitment to presenting a narrative that may not be completely supported
by the facts she reveals. Maynard implies that her nine-month affair with J.D. Salinger,
to which she devotes a third of her book, nearly destroyed her emotionally and physically
and that it stunted the direction of her life. But by her own account, Maynard appears
to be a remarkably accomplished and fortunate woman: She has three loving children
and a viable career as a novelist and columnist for The New York Times (for
years, she featured her family in her now-defunct Op-Ed column "Domestic Affairs").
The more she claims to be a neurotic naif undone by lack of love from a bad man,
the more you notice the enormous amount of power she's granted Salinger; on the eve
of her 44th birthday, she confronts him on his doorstep to ask about her "purpose"
in his life. He brusquely rejects her and it's eerie to read that even his non-answer
provides Maynard with a sense of peace and justification. The way she chose to represent
herself in her life story reveals much more than she possibly intends. However unsettling
it is to read about an older man's fixation with a young girl, it's also unnerving
to see her exploit her youth to grasp Salinger's and the public's attention.
A fair amount of the most recently published memoirs are written by women and
an even larger percentage of their audience are also women. This may be because the
questions of identity that these memoirs pose are particularly complex for women.
Every memoir reviewed has a narrator who tries to avoid defining herself in relation
to the people around her. Nothing is written in a cultural vacuum. Alix Kates Shulman's
A Good Enough Daughter is a prime example of what many baby boomers now face
-- caring for their elderly parent. Shulman evocatively proves that nothing demonstrates
the responsibilities of power more than caring for a pair of now physically and emotionally
dependent parents. Shulman's parents were the perfect elderly couple, independent
and engaged. But then her mother rapidly descended into the grips of Alzheimer's,
and her father's physical condition suddenly deteriorated. After years of distancing
herself from her parents, Shulman now found herself interviewing retirement homes
for them, arranging to become the trustee of their estate, and selling their large,
art-filled home.
Caring for aged parents is a sardonic twist on childhood. You may now be in control
but your parents are once again the focus of your life, as they were when you were
a child. Moreover, you must once again be rendered as helpless as a child as you
face their inevitable decline. This irony is not lost on Shulman as she cares for
her own parents. Her memoir explores how she had taken such effort to distance herself
from her parents and establish herself apart from them; now she is once again struggling
to be a good daughter, that most traditional of roles. She must confront the ultimate
separation from her parents. Shulman's memoir aptly depicts the conflicts between
freedom and responsibility.
It's something plenty of current memoirs badly need. Too frequently, personal
memoirs feature such a narrow range of insight and show no initiative to examine
anything but the author's own emotional reactions. In their mania to record every
vibration of an individual psyche, many of these authors undermine their art. There's
a problem when authors reveal all and all you can think of is what they aren't saying.
Heavy Water and Other Stories
by Martin Amis
Harmony Books, $21 hard
I felt a little puzzled after reading Heavy Water. Worried, actually, that
I had missed something. So I took advantage of my press credentials and arranged
a phone call with the author. I asked him if there was an idea behind the collection.
"Only the most old-fashioned one," he told me. "When you've got enough
stories piled up you put them together in a book. Actually I'd written many more
than this during the period it spans, but all the middle ones went into Einstein's
Monsters. That collection did have a theme -- to its detriment, I'd say -- nuclear
apocalypse. But not this one."
"No," I agree. "No theme."
"But it does show how far I've come. And, you know, displays my 'incredible
protean and chameleonic skills,'" Amis offered.
I'd agree with that too: But it's not just subject matter and style that vary
so widely, it's also the quality of the stories, written between 1975 and 1997. While
some "only just scrape by," to use the author's own expression, there is
one piece, "What Happened to Me on My Holiday," that is worth the price
of the book. I think it is the most emotionally intense piece of writing Martin Amis
has ever done. And let me say this -- Amis fans love Amis for different reasons; there
is something for each of us here.
For readers who admire intellectual contrivance, Amis is the living master: the
man who based a novel on the idea of telling the story of the Holocaust in reverse.
This is a writer who is to bizarre fictional propositions as Joël Robuchon is
to the mashed potato, and Heavy Water serves up a heaping helping of these
elegantly prepared intellectual carbohydrates. There's "Straight Fiction,"
in which gayness is the norm, straight movie stars are outed in the tabloids, and
characters named Cleve and Orv and Irv struggle with their issues about heterosexuality
over home-cooked dinners of Parma ham confit served with pomegranate, papaw, papaya,
and pomelo. There's "The Coincidence of the Arts," situated in a New York
where literally everyone is an artist ("The AC installers were all installationists.
The construction workers were all constructivists."). Here, a dissolute British
portrait painter is stalked by his 6'7" black doorman because Sir Rodney hasn't
gotten around to reading the man's novel. There's "The Janitor on Mars,"
set in the year 2049, involving detailed communications from said custodian to Planet
Earth, pedophilia in orphanages, reporting by Incarnacion Buttruguena-Hume ("the
most frankly glamorous of CNN's main newscasters") and, well, I couldn't quite
get through it myself.
In most cases, the sophistry is redeemed by Amis' brilliant writing, and the opening
story of the collection, "Career Move," is a premier example. It is based
on the premise that poets and screenwriters have traded places; the scenarists are
sending SASEs to struggling, readerless quarterlies, while the poets have six-figure
deals and take meetings in Hollywood:
Luke said, "How did 'Eclogue by a Five-Barred Gate' do?"
Joe said, "Domestically?" He looked at Jim, at Jeff. "Like --
fifteen?"
Luke said, "And worldwide?"
"It isn't going worldwide."
"How about 'Black Rook in Rainy Weather'?" asked Luke.
Joe shook his head. "It didn't even do what 'Sheep in Fog' did."
This Monty Pythonesque scene continues until they finally get down to the work
at hand. "Okay," says Joe. "We're going with the sonnet. Now. Don
has a problem with the octet's first quatrain, Jack and Jim have a problem with the
first quatrain of the sestet, and I think we all have a problem with the final couplet."
Interestingly, the one story I found almost unbearably moving -- in fact, I cut
it out of The New Yorker when it appeared in that magazine a few years ago
and carried it around with me and couldn't stop talking about it for quite some time
-- also relies on intellectual contrivance and even silliness, but here these are
techniques rather than ends in themselves. "What Happened to Me on My Holiday"
is a story about children's understanding of death and also about the death of a
child. The narrator is Amis' son; details and names, including that of the dead boy,
Elias, and Amis' wife, Isabel, are unchanged. But far from presenting unvarnished
reality, the story is written in a dense dialect, a transliteration of the way the
British narrator thinks Americans sound.
"My mum is Amerigan and my dad is English. I go do zgool in Longdon and my
bronunziation is English -- glear, even vaindly Agzonian, the zame as my dad's. ...
Amerigans zeem to zuzbegd thad the English relags and zbeeg Amerigan behind glozed
doors. Shouding oud, on their return, 'Honey, I'm home!'"
Something about the language, and the effort of "translating" it -- "vaindly
Agzonian" is "faintly Oxonian"; later, "gayadig" is "chaotic"
-- is very funny and yields the little eurekas of solving a puzzle while what it is
actually saying is so simple and so sad. This way of reading, or decoding, somehow
creates in the person doing it a childlike emotional climate: a freshness, an openness.
That is where you are when he delivers the pain: a totally original and unbelievably
effective gambit. The story is hard to read, but as the narrator says, "I tell
it thiz way -- in zargazdig Ameriganese -- begaz I don'd wand id do be glear: do be
all grisp and glear."
Without telling us very much about the dead boy, but by describing the antics
of a "liddle four-year-old 'guzzenÇ' Bablo," he is able to tell us everything
he knows about death and danger: about crab races, and swimming without floaties,
and about Pablo's belief that he can bring a dead fish back to life with "vish
cream," about looking over and seeing no brother in a twin bed. By the time
you reach the end of this story, your guard is so far down that it will hit you just
as deep as a story can go.
Amis said on the phone that his next project, a memoir of his father, the great
writer Kingsley Amis, is "going at a good rate. ... It's quite fun and quite
wrenching." If it has either of these qualities in the concentration they are
found in "What Happened to Me on My Holiday," it will stand with the best
of Amis' work, or anyone else's. -- Marion Winik

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